What sort of criteria is there for you to play with someone?
1. The relationship has to be monogamous. I’m a possessive sub and cannot share my Dom with another sub.
2. Limits are clearly discussed. If a Dom would like to explore the possibility of pushing past some of my limits, there must be a discussion before hand. Any attempt to push a limit in play without discussion is a violation of my trust.
3. Just like a Dom would expect me to be open with my thoughts/feelings, I expect the same of him. Communication is a two way street. (And yes, this is something I really struggle with sometimes.)
4. I expect an emotional investment. In many ways I am still a hopeless romantic. I invest emotionally in my relationships. I expect the same in return.
5. No drug use. Period. If I find out my Dom is using, I will drop him like a bad habit.
I would say those are my top five requirements. My list is longer, but it’s more vanilla (like what I want in a man). Of course, those requirements have to be met before I would consider moving to a D/s relationship.